Do you always maintain a positive, pleasant friendship with your peers/relatives/close friends? Do you think of yourself as a kind, refined and polite person who never starts a fight? You’re actually just as responsible as an aggressive co-worker member or friend. Why is that? This is a problem when we instead withdraw from open and healthy conflicts in the face of problems. If you feel like you’re part of a team or a friends group, but you’re just always passive, you’ve actually misled yourself. So what should be done so that we are open to healthy conflict? Let’s check it out:
Express your opposite opinion without aiming to: “That I am right, you are the wrong one.”
Give the feedback you hear a chance, then add it with your own input. Only then tell your work team, how to deal with the problems that exist together.
Use parables. If you still find it difficult to be assertive, try asking your close friends to imagine if the storyline is different. For example: “I heard that you are struggling to make decisions on how to increase sales. If you can find a new way, what will the sales in your division be like?”
Say about the impact of an action.
Instead of directly disapproving of your co-worker/friend plans, help them to think about the consequences. Do so by asking open-ended questions about the impact if it is done.
Ask about the issue behind the problem.
If you do not agree to do something with your peers or subordinates, try to discuss rationally. For example: “I understand that you want to hold new recruitment for your division in order to improve the results of work. Is there a more real goal of adding new employees?” Facing conflicts can provide different points of view even if there are inconveniences, but this is very important in the effectiveness of a team’s work or in friendships. Differences in ways of thinking are a source of innovation and development. You will also be able to identify the problem more clearly. It’s time to give yourself comfort in discomfort. This is where you will learn to get out of your Comfort Zone. Yuk!