There are still many people who doubt their own happiness and don’t know exactly whether they are already happy or not. I’ll try to tell some of the beliefs of people that asked and discussed it with me. I hope you get enlightened after reading it!
Myth 1: “Talking about sadness will take away the happiness we already have”
Fact 1: Grief is an inseparable part of a person’s life. If you can feel true happiness in yourself, it means that you know how to appreciate the sadness you have experienced or are not afraid to talk about it.
Myth 2: “I will be happy if I marry the right person”
Fact 2: Unfortunately, many psychological studies show that the average marital happiness lasts only two years. If you only rely on marriage as your source of happiness, then you will have a hard time feeling married to the right person after two years. Happiness must start with yourself and your partner is an increase in the happiness you already have.
Myth 3: “I will not be happy when my relationship with a partner ends”
Fact 3: When a marriage or relationship has to end, our initial reaction often comes in the form of fear of never being happy again. But it is important to remember, humans have the power to rise from slump.
Myth 4: “I must have a partner if I want to be happy”
Fact 4: Well, this is what singles often think about. Whereas many psychological studies show that people who are single are no less happy than married ones. There are many things you can do when you are single and difficult for you to do when you are married. So, use your single time to the best of your ability. Instead of forcing to have a partner because you are in a hurry or embarrassed to be single.
Myth 5: “Getting a dream job will make me happy”
Fact 5: Often people think this way, after the dream job is obtained, it is not as perfect as their expectations. Finally the happiness felt over. It is necessary to realize that it is the process of living experience in dream work that should make us happy such as; the challenges, the difficulties as well as enjoying ignorance in the new job.
Myth 6: “I will be happy when I am already rich and successful”
Fact 6: Humans are not easily satisfied creatures. The limits of rich and successful in many people can change to the point of feeling they need more and more money. Not a few people experience a great fear of losing money or becoming greedy. It is important to realize the key to buying happiness is not how successful we are, but what good things we can do with success and not how much we earn, but how wisely we allocate our income.
Myth 7: “If I get a serious illness then I will never be happy again”
Fact 7: Getting a verdict of severe illness from a doctor is not an easy thing to accept by many people. Various fears and negative thoughts envelop the mind. Psychological research shows that human beings have the power to determine the experiences we want to face. What we choose to focus on will be part of our lives. Maybe you’re experiencing a severe illness and spending your time thinking that it’s ruining your life, or you can focus on exercising, doing meditation or doing things you’ve wanted to do for a long time but there are a lot of hesitations and excuses to do it.
Myth 8: “My best lifetime is past”
Fact 8: Many people think happiness will decline as a person grows older. When we begin to realize that the years of our life in this world are getting shorter and more meaningful, we will change our perception of life. This condition will lead us to live more in the present, not the past or the future. We will become more emotionally wise.
So, are you happy right now?
Anindya Psychological Practice 