The Myth of How to Deal with Grief, Why Do These Methods Make the Situation Worse?

Everyone actually has their own way of dealing with their life’s problems; that is, when feeling sadness. I find there are ways that people do quite often but instead plunge someone into trouble and grief doesn’t end:

1. Treat yourself to shopping every sad.
   Often something we consider “good” is not a good thing for us. The good things we buy are not uncommon to just calm us down for a while. So when you start thinking, “I’ll feel more comfortable if I buy that latest model of clothes.” or “It feels like I won’t be sad anymore if I’ve eaten all my heart’s ice cream”. Ask yourself again if buying these things will make yourself better? Feelings of guilt, loss of self-control and other negative consequences that follow after you shop every time you feel sad, will only deepen the problems you should face.

   

2. Justify or justify wrong behavior.
   When we feel sad, sometimes we even allow ourselves to be dissolved into that condition until we get out of your good habit schedule. For example it should be today you go to the gym but you don’t do it because you feel you need time to “rest”. In reality if you continue to the gym, because you have a big goal to lose weight it can increase your confidence and self-control. Justifying your innocence to the gym or whatever you’re supposed to do but you just miss it will often add to the burden of your feelings and thoughts.

   

3. Express your negative emotions.
   Many people also think that expressing the emotion of anger by yelling at others, throwing things, slamming doors, cursing others, etc. is a thing that nourishes the mind and can relieve feelings of sadness. Actually, not really, psychological research shows that expressing anger aggressively will only increase the feeling of anger. However, if anger is allowed to be stored, it will also be bad for a person’s psychology. Understand that angry emotions expose your own problems that need to be addressed and understood by yourself.

   

4. Just be lazy all day.
   Humans often think that we think then we work on something because we feel something. Whereas often the feelings we feel arise because of the behavior we do. Maybe this is confusing… hehee, let me give you an example, yes, sometimes just lazing around all day can be fun but if in that lazy condition you feel extreme fatigue, if you do not feel that you have a direction in life means lazing all day is not right for you to face sadness.
5. Turn off your phone.
   If you are sad, you don’t actually need to cut ties with the outside world until you turn off your cellphone. This can actually make it easier for you to get carried away with negative emotions. Just put on silent mode so you can still see the news of the world from outside of yourself.

   

6. Party up to last night.
   Going to a party overnight with the excuse of relieving sadness is not the right thing to do. Often even the next day you can’t run the schedule you’ve made, your problems and burdens get worse.